Superbowl Sunday

Superbowl Sunday.

Its a day that my family approaches with nervous anticipation.

Twice, my husband was a player in the Superbowl, and those are the good memories. Even though we had one win and one loss. Other times, we watched as we almost always knew someone playing personally, and had someone to root for. Recently we watched Clay Matthews of the Green Bay Packers earn his ring, and I couldn’t believe it. The first time we met Clay was when he was visiting the family area at the Tennessee Titans, coming to see his uncle Bruce play alongside my kids’ dad. He was in the 8th grade back then, the same age my son is now.

But Superbowl Sunday also means something very different to us as well, and it has nothing to do with football. Its an anniversary, and not a very good one. It happens to be that on this day four years ago, my older son started his most intensive struggle with Juvenile Arthritis, and was admitted into the hospital for the first time. It was the beginning of one of the toughest, if not THE toughest time in our lives. It was the day that everything was divided into “before” and “after.”

The following year, strangely, he was admitted again on Superbowl Sunday, for other complications arising from his disease.

The third year, on the same day, we held our breath not because of the game, but because he was in another intense flare. Even though we aren’t the superstitious type, it started to feel like a sinister pattern had emerged. Superbowl Sunday was not a day we looked forward to.

But you know what? He made it that year without being admitted. It was a little touch and go, but HE won, nonetheless. Even though it wasn’t easy, he managed to skate by without a hospital admission.  This year? Well, he has been at a friend’s house and plans to follow up with a Superbowl party at another’s. There is no “curse,” there are no reasons not to breathe…he is here, and he is WINNING. He is beating JA and its hold on him, especially on this day that we can’t help but think about it.

Another friend of mine posted today that it was her son’s “Diaversary”  yesterday, that is their anniversary of his diagnosis with type 1 Juvenile Diabetes. They celebrate it.

You may be asking yourself, “why on earth?” but she can tell you much better than I:

I know it may seem strange to celebrate the day he was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes, but here is why I decided to do it last year. It is a time in which we could look back and see the progress that he has made in a year. We went from anger and fear to being on the road to acceptance. Small steps for the entire family. Last year he was a little hesitant to celebrate this day, but this year about 1 week away he asked me the date and he said well that means there are only 7 days left… I said to what he looked at me and said my Diaversary. So this day has become important to him. I am not only proud of him and the progress he has made but his sister who loves him dearly and how she cares for him and watches over him. I am proud of them both.

This is where WE are now with Superbowl Sunday. More than game day, it proves to us that we are back in the game. No matter what JA throws at us, we have all come so far, and we will be the victors, not this disease. It will not win.

Today Superbowl Sunday didn’t come with a cloud over our heads. It is the big day in the same way as it is in every other American household. It doesn’t matter which team comes out ahead tonight. I already know who is winning.

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  1. So happy to hear that your son is winning! 🙂 Best wishes to him and your family!!!
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  2. We often say that holidays are cursed in out family. It seems that growing up someone was either sick or getting hurt on a holiday, and my son has carried on the tradition. I think we only had one problem on Super Bowl Sunday though. When my brother was 3 he slipped on the rug in the back hall and fell on the ceramic dog bowl. He lost one tooth root and all, and pushed another one back into his gums. 🙁 I hope your Super Bowl Sunday went well! Thank you for linking up at Rock-A-Bye Parents Sunday Parenting Pointers linky party. I hope to see a post from you again this week!
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    • Thanks for the invite Elizabeth! I would love to stop by and link up again! I’m beginning to think that I might be distantly related to you if your family is cursed for the holidays 😉 That seems to be our experience as well! Truthfully though, it does make for some pretty interesting (and sometimes funny) stories, at least in retrospect, right?

  3. Awww, what a touching story. I hope all is well with your son and has many more great super bowl sundays.
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    • Thanks Zulema! We had really nice Superbowl memories this year, filled with fun and good friends, and only a minor sore throat. If that’s the worst we have, then I will take that!

  4. I think trying to make it a positive and have a great attitude about it is fantastic.
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    • Debi, I believe you can either laugh or you can cry… may as well try to make the best of it, right? ITs amazing how much happier you can be in the same exact situation if you just set your mind to it.

  5. We aren’t into sports except for NASCAR. However, I went into labor with our daughter a year ago during the Superbowl and had her four hours later. 🙂

    • So lucky you, you got a wonderful Superbowl memory! We have been to a few NASCAR events and have lots of friends who are big into it. It was kind of required for me to be a football fan though,lol.

  6. I can understand where you are coming from. My daughter was diagnosed with sever developmental delays when she was 3 and I still remember that day like it was yesterday.

    • It’s hard like that, isn’t it Mistee? That day comes around, and you try, but its hard to shake the funk. It’s the day that marks “before and after” in our life, because everything was forever different and changed. I hope we can fill the years to come with more positive memories on that anniversary though…

  7. I’m not really into football at all. I just enjoy watching the Halftime Show (hah, yeah) but that’s actually awesome that your husband was a Superbowl player!

    • There’s a lot of entertainment that goes into a Superbowl besides the actual game… I enjoy all the pieces, including the commercials and halftime show too.

  8. I just like watching the halftime show. I can see why it means so many different things to you.
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    • I like watching the halftime show too- the day is just a little tense because of the history for us. It looks like that is changing though, but I’m knocking on wood now, just in case….

  9. It’s hard not to associate such things with a day, time, and/or event running parallel, especially if both things are memorable, I totally get that… I’m glad to hear your family is taking the acceptance road, and that the day was only about football for you today. Best of luck with your continued journey with your son!! And hurrah for winning (your son, not the Seahawks…we’re Lions fans here, you can feel sorry for me now if you want, it’s a location thing). 😉
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    • Actually much to the chagrin of all of our Bears friends, my younger son is a big Detroit fan, so he can commiserate with you. We knew the old coach (Jim Schwartz) because we were with the Titans at the same time, so we always rooted for them when it wasn’t rooting against all our friends still playing for the Bears! My other son, with the not-so-great Superbowl anniversary IS winning, thanks 🙂 We got by this year with just a sore throat, and I’ll take that!

  10. Chasity Boatman says:

    That’s AMAZING that your husband played! My family and I watched the entire Superbowl. I was rooting for the Broncos, but the Seahawks defense was solid.

    • I know, that was crazy, right? This was one of the few Superbowls that one team just dominated. IT was fun for us this year because we weren’t involved in the league, and could just go to a party at a friend’s house, like “normal” people. (I use that term loosely!)

  11. We are not much into football, but really enjoy the commercials and halftime show. Very cool that your husband played and you got to experience it first hand!
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    • It was neat to get to go to a couple Superbowls, and have a personal stake in them. I was disappointed with the commercials this year. I miss the E-trade baby!!

  12. My husband is watching the game now, I am not much into football only when my kids play it!
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    • It always takes on a lot more meaning when it is something that your kids are involved with. I find I watch football less now that most of our friends have retired. I still watch for the people I know though!

  13. We aren’t big football fans, well we are now. The kids suddenly seem old enough to watch it. This will be the year of “Why the Day After the Super Bowl Should Be a National Holiday and They Should Cancel School”, but certainly nothing as traumatic as this. Such an odd coincidence that it happened on a day that has such huge meaning for your family in other ways.
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    • In my house, everything seems to qualify as a reason why school should be cancelled, we don’t need a holiday like Superbowl as an excuse! Today it was lets -not- catch- up -on -school -because -I -am -traumatized -from- the -raccoon – sitting- in- our- house- at -the- garage -door. At first I thought that was a heck of an original excuse, but it was actually fact. EEK! Yes, I was traumatized too, but it was over in less than 15 minutes (thank you animal control, for a humane catch and release with no poo in my home) and saturday or not, we still have to catch up on school!

  14. Kim, don’t ever underestimate what a great advocate that you are for your boys. You are dogged and you get things done for those kids. They are so blessed to have you and you know how blessed you are, period. While it might not be a “happy” anniversary to celebrate, you are winning this battle and helping others along the way. You, my friend, are a hero!
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    • Thanks Sandy, we got through the day with just a sore throat- its taken years but we are finally (hopefully) moving in the right direction. I also believe there is a purpose in everything, so I hope that our experiences can at least help others along the way!

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